Adult
ADD Relationships and How to Make Them Work
In today’s world,
finding someone to love can be hectic. Work, school, children and
dozens of other responsibilities and priorities leave little time
for romantic relationships.
Still, millions have found that one person to share their life with
and among those million are those with Adult Attention Deficit Disorder
or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Those dealing with
ADD/ADHD not only have to worry about the everyday obstacles a relationship
can endure, but also the added difficulties the disorder sometimes
presents.
Adult ADD relationships can experience a few of the following hardships:
- Lack of Connection without Explanation: Couples
in adult ADD relationships may not have the same connection
as couples without ADD. For the person without ADD/ADHD, they
can have a constant bond with their partner despite the time
of day or the activity. But for the person with ADD/ADHD things
are different; they can be here one moment and gone the next.
The sporadic connection can create wounds and doubts in adult
ADD relationships.
- Irritated with Touching: Sometimes the senses
of those with ADD/ADHD can be heightened, making it annoying
for them when they come into contact with bright lights, strong
smells and constant touching. For couples in adult ADD relationships,
having their partner reject their touch can create a disconnection.
- Faulty Memory: A common issue for those
with ADD/ADHD is bad memory. Those in adult ADD relationships
can cause unintentional heartache by forgetting an important
meeting or a special occasion.
- Quick Temper: In relationships, couples
sometimes fight about small matters but this is a common occurrence
in adult ADD relationships. People with ADD/ADHD tend
to have short fuses and this can create friction in an otherwise
loving relationship.
Experts recommend that couples
in adult ADD relationships work together to communicate and understand
the needs and concerns of their partner. Adult ADD relationships
can work if both parties put in the effort.
Ways for adult ADD relationships to function:
- Hug It Out: A person with ADD/ADHD can make
their adult ADD relationship work by telling their significant
other what they are feeling. If they are having a difficult
time being touched, they should explain the reason to their
partner and express how this does not affect how much they care
for their loved one. After the moment has passed, the
ADD/ADHD sufferer should offer their partner a long hug or back
rub to keep the adult ADD relationship going strong.
- Put Out the Short Fuse: Those in adult
ADD relationships need to work together so this issue doesn’t
get the better of them. Although it is ultimately the
ADD/ADHD sufferer’s responsibility to work on not losing
their temper quickly, the person without ADD/ADHD can help by
leaving the room to give their loved one time to calm down.
- Working Together: Non ADD/ADHD partners can
help their adult ADD relationships by asking their loved one
how to lure back their attention once the other’s mind
has wandered. Non sufferers can also ask their companions
to advise them of when it is OK to hug or touch them.
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